The quality of your questions determines the quality of your life. “Tony Robbins.”
I once spent an hour reframing one of my clients’ questions. I couldn’t answer the questions she was asking me because they were leading to the wrong thought process.
Questions help us decide which direction to go. They feed us information that goes into our thought process which leads to decisions and actions.
If a thought process is flawed, it can set the person up for failure. A flawed thought process starts with a lack of knowledge and a weak mindset (both of which are easily corrected).
Therefore, if a flawed thought process is allowed to make decisions through answering some of its flawed questions then the outcome is guaranteed failure.
The appropriate step should be to correct the thought process by reframing the questions it asks. Responding to flawed questions can encourage the wrong thought process which will worsen the problem. Here are a few common flawed questions and how I would reframe them:
1) How can I lose weight?
Your nutrition is a constant in your every day. If you lost weight doing “X” then you will have to keep doing “X” to keep the weight off. So why not build a lifestyle that will get you to lose weight and keep it off for good. The better question will be: “How can I build eating habits that will help me lose weight and keep it off for good?”
2) What should I eat when I’m hungry at night?
Hunger at night is a sign you didn’t eat enough during the day. The correct question should be “How should I eat during the day so I am not hungry at night?"
3) Will a detox diet help me lose weight quickly?
Yes, when you eat close to nothing you will lose weight quickly, but when you go back to your old habits you could gain it back and more! The correct question should be: “Which diet is good for me?” The answer is: The one you can do for the rest of your life and stay healthy. Of course when that happens it is referred to as a lifestyle and not a diet.
4) Is eating ______ bad for me?
Not unless you’re allergic or intolerant to it. Otherwise, no food is bad for you! The quantities you have it in is what makes it bad for you. The correct question should be “How often and what amounts should I be eating of ______ ?” Its the dose that makes the poison.
Asking questions is an important part of building a strong and healthy lifestyle. Technically no question is a bad question. However, a good guide or mentor will be one to help you reframe your questions to ones that will lead to the truth! That’s what we call “high quality questions”.
Do you have questions of your own? Ask them below.
Mohamed Rezk, RD